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AITA for not giving my 18 yo stepson my 4 yo daughter’s money?

My husband and I have been together for seven years, married for five. He has a son and a daughter from his previous marriage, 18 and 13, and we have a four-year-old daughter together. Although we have some shared expenses, for the most part we keep our finances separate. Custody is shared 50/50 between my husband and his ex regarding the older kids. Long story short, my oldest stepson graduated a couple weeks ago. He’s only ever wanted to go to one school which happens to be a very specialized and hence very expensive university out of state. He applied, was accepted, and got a decent but not phenomenal scholarship from the school itself. Meanwhile, my husband has been encouraging him to look into additional scholarships and potentially ROTC or Air National Guard to help with the remainder of expenses. My husband’s company went under a couple of years ago and he is just beginning to recover financially so paying out out of pocket for his son’s tuition is simply not an option. Unfortunately for Stepson, his focus here lately has been on his new girlfriend and not his academics and scholarships, and unfortunately he’s decided his dad is an idiot when it comes to scholarships and military service and that he’ll figure it out on his own. All fine and good except for the fact that he hasn’t figured it out on his own, and sometime here in the next several months the University he wants to attend is asking for roughly $25,000 in tuition money. After dodging financial conversations and scholarship conversations with my husband for the past six or seven months, he finally came out and asked his dad how he was going to be paying for the tuition because the school is starting to ask for deposits etc. Husband “broke it” to him that there is no college fund set aside (apparently BioMom has been telling him there was. I have no idea where she got that idea.) Now the whole family is up in arms that my stepson may not be able to go to the school of his choice. Now it’s come up that our four-year-old has a college fund and investment account, because on my computer there is literally a folder on the desktop that has the investment links and logins and paperwork organized. Right now it has about $8000 in it, all of it from me personally depositing money and all of the little cash gifts my daughter receives for Christmas and birthdays etc. Because of how badly this whole tuition and university situation has exploded, my husband now thinks we should pay for my stepson’s stuff with my daughter’s money and he will pay me back. The problem is, I’ve already given my husband a pile of money for other things and I’ve never gotten it back so I said no. Am I the asshole for ruining my stepson’s university opportunity? Everyone else seems to think so but I seem to think this should have been talked about and dealt with a long time ago.

2025-09-04 12:37:39

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITAH for getting a medical procedure for my non-verbal brother without his consent?

I (34M) am the primary caregiver for my younger brother, Noah (22M), who is non-verbal and has a severe intellectual disability. He was diagnosed in early childhood and, despite years of therapies and support, his cognitive abilities are similar to those of a toddler. Noah is a kind and gentle person, but he struggles to communicate his needs and experiences severe sensory sensitivities. One of the biggest challenges we’ve faced is his dental hygiene. Despite our best efforts, brushing his teeth has always been a battle. He doesn’t understand the importance of it, and any attempt to clean his teeth triggers meltdowns. We’ve tried specialized toothbrushes, desensitization therapies, and even sedating toothpaste options—nothing has worked. Over the past year, his dental health deteriorated to the point where he was in visible discomfort, but because he can’t tell us when he’s in pain, it took a while to realize how bad things had gotten. After consulting with his dentist and medical team, we decided the best option was to put him under general anesthesia to treat his existing dental issues and, at the same time, perform a procedure to prevent future decay—applying dental sealants and removing a few problematic teeth. The procedure went smoothly, and since then, Noah has been noticeably happier and calmer. He’s eating more comfortably, and the stress around brushing his teeth has significantly decreased. The issue arose when my older sister, Emma (38F), found out. Emma has always been somewhat distant from Noah’s day-to-day care, but she’s very vocal about disability rights. When I told her about the procedure, she was furious. She accused me of violating Noah’s bodily autonomy and making permanent decisions without his consent. I tried to explain that this was about preventing his suffering—he cannot understand dental pain or communicate his distress, and the procedure improved his quality of life. But she said I was treating him like a child and implied I was taking the "easy way out" instead of working harder on alternatives. Since then, she’s been calling and texting, saying I crossed an ethical line. She even involved a few extended family members who now think I’m “controlling” Noah’s body without regard for his autonomy. Meanwhile, I’m just trying to do what’s best for him—I see his daily struggles firsthand, and I genuinely believe this was the kindest choice. I love my brother and want to give him the best quality of life possible. But with my sister’s accusations ringing in my ears, I’m starting to wonder—did I overstep? AITAH?

2025-10-15 13:59:42

Luca Moretti

Relationships

AITAH for leaving my own birthday dinner early after my boyfriend showed up with three of his friends uninvited?

I (26F) planned a small birthday dinner at one of my favorite restaurants just five of my closest friends and my boyfriend (28M). I reserved the table, I wanted it to be a chill, intimate night with the people who matter most to me. When my boyfriend arrived he brought three of his friends that I barely know. No warning. No ": Hey, do you mind?" Just a casual "They didn’t have plans, figured it’d be fun." It completely changed the vibe. The restaurant had to rearrange the table and suddenly this dinner I planned turned into him holding court with his buddies. They dominated the conversation with inside jokes, barely acknowledged my friends. I felt like an extra at my own event. I tried to stay polite, but I was honestly upset. After about an hour of feeling invisible, I pulled the server aside, paid the entire bill including for his friends told everyone I wasn’t feeling well, said a warm goodbye to my friends and left. Later that night, my boyfriend texted saying I was dramatic and made him "look bad" in front of his friends. He said I should’ve just gone with the flow and that I ruined the night for everyone. I didn’t yell, I didn’t cause a scene. But now he’s acting like I was out of line.

2025-10-15 13:59:40

Elise Dubois

Relationships

AITA for reporting threats made by my husband's kids and their mom to CPS and then leaving because I'm pregnant?

I (30f) have been married for the last two years and together with my husband (33m) for a little over 4.5 years. He's divorced with two children (11 and 13) with his ex. I was not the other woman. They were not married when I met him and had been divorced for at least 3 years by that point. But the ex was very difficult once I moved in with my husband. It was something that could be managed by reducing contact back then but she made it clear she didn't want her kids to have a stepmom and she did voice to the kids that she did not want them to like or respect me. It didn't work right away and we got along well at the start but a few weeks after the wedding there was a very clear change in the relationship. It wasn't unmanageable and we went to therapy together to try and make things work well like they had previously. Things changed for the worst when I became pregnant. We told the kids and they became angry. They told their mom and she became angry. And then the kids were aggressive in speaking to me. There was a lot of fuck you and fuck off and get the fuck out of here from them. I was called names. I was told to get an abortion by the 13 year old. My husband was speaking to his kids and punishing them when needed. But it got worse. And then the kids showed me texts between them and their mom where there were threats to me and my unborn child. Which turned into them threatening to make sure I didn't give birth. They were serious enough that I had to call my husband home from work early because the kids were acting like they might just follow through. He disciplined them and he told me that I shouldn't worry because they won't really do it. I told him I wasn't sure about that and he told me he wouldn't let anything happen. But it almost did. The 11 year old attempted to make the threats a reality. I told my husband I was not putting myself or our baby at risk. He told me it wouldn't happen again and he'd be dealing with it all around but he had no answer as to what he could do. Not even to say the kids would never be left with just me and then more threats came as we were fighting about it. I told him I was not taking chances with my baby. I made a report to CPS and then I moved out of the house I share with my husband and in with my parents. This is all very recent but the CPS investigation is taking this seriously from what I can tell. My husband has reached out to me and he expressed how hurt and angry he was that I took it this far. His parents have also done the same. They told me I took it too far and I could have worked with my husband to make this safer for me. I feel like I gave it a chance but he was far too blasé about it especially after the attempt. But maybe I'm overreacting and I'm here to be told if that's true or not. I only want to keep my baby safe.

2025-10-15 13:59:35

Anya Petrova

Relationships

AITA for telling my BIL that someone is going to punch his girlfriend one day?

My older sister recently got married to her long-time fiance. They are polyamorous and both have a separate partner each. I have met my sisters boyfriend a few times at holiday events and he was really nice. My brother-in-law's girlfriend (we'll call her Sally) I've met once before at their engagement party and she seemed nice but she also seemed like the type of person who wants to be the center of attention. She talked over everyone, insisted on helping my sister open any gifts they received and she even told people that "she's the reason" my sister and my BIL were getting married because she's officiating the wedding. It all rubbed me the wrong way, but as long as my sister and BIL were cool with it, who was I to say anything? Things did get a little weird towards the end of the party, however, because Sally got pretty drunk and started very loudly proclaiming how monogamy was ruining relationships and was disgusting. That the only reason people aren't open with their love is because they are scared, insecure, jealous, and controlling. This made most of the people left at the party visably uncomfortable and most left soon after because she wouldn't stop (even after my BIL took her aside and told her to calm down). I was helping my sister clean up from the party when Sally started questioning me about my stance (my boyfriend had to work so he wasnt at the party). My sister tried to squash the discussion but Sally ignored her and asked again. I very calmy explained that I tried polyamory once and quickly realized it wasn't for me and that I was now in a very happy monogamous relationship but totally support non-monogamous relationships. Sally started to say something but my sister very firmly told her that she was drunk and to go lay down. She rolled her eyes but did stomp back to the bedroom. My sister then explained how Sally was usually very nice but did make being poly her whole personality, which had caused problems before. Flash forward a few weeks later to the wedding itself: everything went great! It was beautiful and everyone seemed happy. During the reception my boyfriend and I were talking to my mom and Sally approached us to say hi (shes met my mom quite a few times and my mom is the type to love everyone). My mom reintroduced me and also introduced my boyfriend. Nothing seemed off, we all said our pleasantries and that was it. A little later, my boyfriend went to get some drinks for us while I danced with my sister. It was taking him longer than I expected, so I went to go looking for him. To my suprise, he was being cornered by Sally near the drink table. His back was literally to the wall and everytime he took a step away from her, she would step closer. She was also rubbing his arm in a flirty way. I couldn't hear what she was saying to him, but the relief on his face when he saw me told me everything I needed to know. The only thing I did hear was her whining, "oh, come on." I walked up and grabbed my drink from his hand, which finally made her take a few steps back. I asked what they were talking about and she very bluntly and flirtatiously replied, "I was just telling him how much I love gingers." (My boyfriend, obviously, is a ginger). I simply told her, as calmly as I could, to stop being a fucking cunt and there were plenty of single people at the wedding she could hit on. She said something back but I was already pulling my boyfriend away and didn't hear nor care. The rest of the night was uneventful other than normal wedding fun. A few days later, my BIL texted me to say I needed to apologize to Sally because flirting with people is part of her personality, and she didn't do anything wrong. I told him that one day she's going to come across someone less nice than me and she's going to get her shit rocked. My BIL thinks I'm being petty and an asshole, my sister and mom think I was justified and that Sally was being disrespectful.

2025-10-15 13:59:29

Clara Jensen

TV Shows

AITA for suing my neighbor after their kid trespassed and fell into my koi pond?

I (22M) have a koi pond in my backyard. It’s not just any koi pond—it’s a full-blown, professionally designed Japanese garden with a bridge, waterfalls, and koi that cost more than my car (I’m talking $1,000 for a single fish). Maintaining this pond is my pride and joy. I’ve put years into this hobby, and my yard is securely fenced with “No Trespassing” signs everywhere. Enter my neighbor, “Karen” (fake name, but fitting). Karen has a son, let’s call him Timmy (8M), who is notorious for wandering into other people’s yards uninvited. I’ve talked to Karen multiple times about this, but she just brushes it off with, “Kids will be kids.” Last week, while I was out running errands, I got a frantic call from Karen. Apparently, Timmy *climbed over my fence* to “feed the fish” (even though I have explicitly told him to stay out). In doing so, he slipped, fell into the pond, and destroyed part of my carefully maintained ecosystem. Several of my prized koi died due to stress, and the filtration system was damaged because of the debris Timmy kicked in. Luckily, Timmy wasn’t seriously hurt—just a few scrapes—but Karen has been *demanding* I pay for his medical bills. She claims my pond is an "attractive nuisance" and that I should’ve had a cover or something to prevent kids from falling in. I argued that (1) it’s a private, fenced property, and (2) her son had no business being there in the first place. When I refused to pay, Karen lost it and started badmouthing me to the whole neighborhood, calling me “heartless” and a “terrible person.” I’ve since filed a lawsuit against her for the cost of the koi, the damage to my filtration system, and repairs to my pond—over $5,000 in total. Some of my friends think I’m taking it too far, saying, “He’s just a kid.” But others agree that Karen should’ve been watching him better. So, Reddit, AITA for suing my neighbor after her kid trespassed and destroyed my koi pond?

2025-10-27 18:33:27

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

AITAH: I am calling off my engagement after my partner revealed he is MAGA.

My fiancé and I have been together since 2013 when we met in college. He struggled to get a well paying job and during his long bouts of unemployment must have been radicalized to blame everyone else I chalked it up to depression and tried to get him help with therapy. I paid for him to return to school to become a nurse too but he still has not completed the pre request after 7 years!He currently works gig jobs while I am a nurse in California making close to 400k a year working a full time and a part time job. I was hoping to save up enough to not have to work after having a baby since I one I cannot rely on him. We were planned to get married next year and wanted to try for a baby. He knows I am very liberal and all about women’s rights. He never openly expressed support for MAGA itself until after Trump won and said Trump will help the economy and finally allow him to get a good job I told him that it was the easiest time to get a job in the past 20 years in 2021 yet he couldn’t. I am not giving into sunken costs and staying and he didn’t know, but he did make offhand comments before on women losing their worth the older they get and I questioned him and he said it was a joke. The past week has been miserable listening to him talk non stop on how great trump is and how he will turn everting great again. I had it and gave him notice to leave by the end of the month and we are through. He said it’s unfair and told me it’s stupid to give up on us over just politics. The very fact he said that solidified the notion that he is so clueless and our values are too different. He will likely have to move back into his parent’s home or be homeless since he makes less than 35k a year in the most expensive region in the USA. Am I the asshole for throwing away my relationship of 11 years over politics? I wish politics was boring again.

2025-10-27 18:22:06

Clara Jensen

Family

AITAH for telling my best friend her marriage is doomed at her bachelorette party and accidentally getting the wedding canceled

This weekend was a disaster... I 27F have been best friends with Amy 28F for years. She has been with this guy Jake for about three years, and honestly, he is a walking red flag. He is super controlling, jealous, and always checking her location. Once, he called her nine times while we were just shopping at Target. Amy keeps defending him, saying he is just protective because he cares so much. Whatever At her bachelorette party, it was supposed to be a fun girls night, but Jake kept blowing up her phone. Texts, FaceTimes, asking where she was, accusing her of acting single. She kept leaving to call him back, crying and apologizing, while the rest of us sat there awkwardly. After about the fourth time she left the table, I just lost it. When she came back, I said loud enough for the whole table to hear You are not marrying a husband, you are signing up for a lifetime of being babysat by a jealous manchild. Amy started crying and ran out of the bar, half the girls followed her Later that night, her mom called me, drunk, thanking me, because apparently they have all been worried about Jake but did not know how to stop the wedding. Her mom told Amy if she goes through with the wedding, they will not pay for it. Now Amy has blocked Jake, moved out of their apartment, and moved back into her parents house. But she also blocked me for humiliating her Half our friend group is saying I did the right thing. The other half is calling me jealous and toxic for blowing up her relationship right before the wedding. So.. AITAH?

2025-10-30 08:06:20

Anya Petrova

Relationships

AITA for not stopping my husband from getting the paternity test?

My husband recently asked me for a paternity test. Why? Because our son looks nothing like him. I never cheated on him. I would never. He knows he was my first and only partner. I told him he can have the test. Who am I to stop him from it? He took the test and found out our son is actually his and he seemed very happy. I told him congrats. Now you are sure it's your own son you are paying child support for. He asked what does that mean and I told him if he thinks I cheat on him then we truly shouldn't be married. I took my son and left and we are currently staying in a hotel and I'm going to get divorced. He keeps calling and texting and begging me to come back but I don't want to. He said if I had such a problem with the test then I should have stopped him instead of allowing it and then "acting like a bratty child and ruining our lives". I'm not sure how I'm the one ruining our lives. He is the one who thinks I'm a cheater, he should be happy he doesn't have to live with a cheater anymore.

2025-10-30 08:06:29

Elise Dubois

Movie Reviews

AITA for refusing to cook after my BF tried to “critique” my cooking with a literal PowerPoint presentation?

So, this happened a few days ago, and I’m still trying to process it. For context, I (28F) have been with my BF (30M) for about 2 years. We live together, and I’ve always done most of the cooking because I genuinely enjoy it, and he claims he can’t “even boil water” without setting off the smoke alarm. The other night, I made one of our favorite meals, and while we were eating, he got a weird smirk on his face. He then says, “You know, I’ve been taking notes.” I laughed, thinking he was joking, but then he said, “No, really. I made a presentation.” I still thought it was a joke until he got up, connected his laptop to the TV, and opened a PowerPoint titled “Improving Our Home Dining Experience.” I was in disbelief as he went slide by slide critiquing my dishes: “Slide 1: Too Much Garlic,” “Slide 2: Pasta Consistency,” “Slide 3: More Salt, Less Sass.” The kicker was Slide 8, which was just a photo of Gordon Ramsay facepalming with the caption, “What he’d think.” I was stunned. I told him if he had such detailed opinions, he should cook himself. He tried to backtrack, saying it was “all in good fun” and that he was “just trying to help.” But I wasn’t laughing. I haven’t cooked since, and now he’s been living off cereal and takeout. He’s sulking, saying I’m overreacting and “ruining the joke.” So, Reddit, AITA for refusing to cook after my BF presented me with a PowerPoint critique of my cooking?

2025-10-30 08:06:34

Anya Petrova

AITA

AITAH for telling a plus size woman that I love being ‘skinny’?

I dread going to my childhood friend's birthday party every year. We moved apart a decade ago, and even though I'll always care deeply about her, we are very different people now and her friend group reflects this. She has one friend, let's call her Amanda, who...without fail... has to comment on my weight EVERY single time she sees me. 'You're so skinny!' 'Do you even eat?' 'Does your bf care that you don't have curves?' 'Your legs are like sticks!' For the record - I eat plenty. I just have a fast metabolism which keeps me super thin. I keep a strong face when Amanda says these things to me, but truthfully she's touching on my worst insecurities and it makes me dread going to these parties every year. I was considering not going this year, until I talked to my mom about it. My mom had (what I thought was) a great idea on how to deal with Amanda. She suggested I pretend she's giving me a compliment. My mom told me: "If Amanda says 'You're so skinny!', just smile and say 'Thanks! I love being skinny. And if she looks disappointed at your response, you'll have proven she was trying to insult you." I thought this was great advice, however something I had failed to mention to my mom was that Amanda was overweight. I didn't realize this meant I was entering potential AH territory. Anyway, the dreaded birthday party day comes. And of course, no surprise, Amanda immediately looks at my arms and comments how tiny they are. I ignored this comment. Then later on in the day, we were standing in a group together and she was eyeing me up and down. She chuckled to herself and says "God, you're so skinny." And I thought, ok here it is. Here is my moment. I turned to her, smiled and said "Thanks. I love being skinny". And then, and I am completely serious here... SHE SLAPS ME IN THE FACE!!!!! I was in complete shock, just staring back at her, mouth hanging open with my hand on my cheek. Everyone was silent. She suddenly bursts into tears and runs out of the room. Two of her friends chase her. Only one other girl and my childhood friend asked if I was okay, but everyone else was just shooting me dirty looks. I promptly left the party (which sucked cause I had a two-hour commute and had planned to sleepover). The next day, I was texting with my childhood friend about it. She basically thinks that even though Amanda shouldn't have slapped me, that I was insensitive for saying "I love being skinny" to a plus size person. I argued that Amanda has been consistently insensitive to me every party. And I didn't comment on her body, only my own. She told me that it's different because being skinny is socially acceptable, and that Amanda wouldn't usually do something like this but I triggered her with my 'insult'. My mom thinks I am in the right but this was all her idea so of course she does lol. So AITA for what I said to Amanda?

2025-10-30 08:06:35

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITA: My husband will invite his family and friends over without telling me until that day. He then expects me to clean, run to the store and prep/cook everything. I finally just decided to leave the house the last time he told me because I only had 4 hours till their arrival. He canceled.

The thing is, his family is constantly judging and talking about each other, so when he says "It doesn't matter, they don't care..." I know, and he knows, he's full of it. Also, it's not just tidying the house. We are not regularly stocked in food or drinks to have people over. When I got home, I asked what he was planning on having for dinner, and he responded, "I don't know, I guess it's good that they aren't coming over anymore." Now he is sulking, saying I am the problem because I can't go with the flow. I have told him multiple times I just need a couple days notice to get things in order. But he insists I am just difficult, uptight and uncooperative. AITA?

2025-10-30 08:06:37

Jonas Bergström

Relationships

AITA for telling my mom she can't share a room or a bed with her boyfriend in my home?

When I (27f) was in college I met my boyfriend and we moved in together, sharing a place with some friends, after dating for a year. I was 19 when we met and 20 when we moved in together. We decided from that point onward to take turns spending Christmas with our families. But the first year we were supposed to see mine, my mom made it clear my boyfriend could not stay and and we weren't sharing a room or a bed in her house. My dad argued in favor of letting it happen since I was an adult and living with him already but mom said no. She hated that I wouldn't stay at their house then and instead booked an Airbnb. She said I should respect the rules of her house and I told her I was, but I didn't want to tell my boyfriend to be alone on the holidays and especially when his family had welcomed us together happily. After that I made it clear there would be no coming to visit like that if I couldn't sleep with my boyfriend. My mom said it wasn't like we were married so she had every right to that rule. Two years ago my dad died and for 11 months my mom has been in a relationship with her boyfriend. They don't live together exactly but according to my brother he was there most nights while he was still there. My mom and brother aren't really talking right now. My brother could hear mom and her boyfriend in bed and he hated it so he moved out. He's also 22 and had wanted to but it gave him the push to move. My mom was furious and demanded to know why he was leaving out of nowhere and she freaked when my brother told her he was tired of hearing them. It started mom off on him not being happy for her that she found someone again after dad died. My mom seems to be missing my brother being around and she told me she misses having her kids around her so she wanted to visit for a week or two soon. She wanted to bring her boyfriend along and I told her she can't share a room or a bed with him in my home. I told her I do not want to hear that. She got mad at me and said she's a grown woman and should be allowed her freedom. I told her she was alright denying it to me and I wasn't even planning to have sex in her house. But it sounded like she doesn't care if we hear or not and I'm not dealing with it. I also told her I wasn't going to reward her with sharing with her boyfriend when she has been so strict with me about it. My mom accused me of acting like a petty child. AITA?

2025-10-30 08:06:45

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITAH for letting my kids loot my brother's house to prove my point.

My brother and his family came for a visit last month. My kids and I play with lego and we have fun leaving little dioramas around my house. Just silly stuff like a fight between Ironman and Darth Vader on the loot llama. It's just our way of leaving Easter eggs around the house. My nephew really liked them and decided to take a few home. When we noticed they were missing I asked my brother to bring them back. He said that it was just kids being kids and that he would them back the next time we saw each other. I saw him for coffee and I reminded him beforehand that I wanted all our stuff back. He "forgot" to bring the "toys". Okay. Game on. We went over to his place for a BBQ. I told my kids that unless all our stuff was returned to us when we got there literally anything in the house was fair game. Like the godless barbarians they are they went to town. When we left I don't think there were any remotes, small electronics, or beer mugs left at his house. I actually had to sneak the dog back into the house before we left. I started getting calls on our way home. I ignored them. When I got home I returned his calls. He said a bunch of stuff was missing from his house. I said I would check with the kids. He said that I fucking well knew what happened and that he wanted his shit back. I said I would box it up and return it the next time we saw eack other. As long as we got our lego back. He was at my house with my Lego later that evening. He had even accidentally included stuff that wasn't ours. I returned it and his stuff. I told him that this is how we would be dealing with his kid in the future. He is pissed off that he had to make a special trip to return my stuff. My parents think that there is a huge difference between an eight year old taking Lego minifigures and a couple of teenagers pillaging their uncle's house. AITAH?

2025-10-30 08:06:15

Luca Moretti

Relationships

Aitah for telling my wife she’s just as racist as her parents

I 53 M am white. My wife of 30 years Naomi is Japanese. We have three kids. This story focuses on my oldest son Kyle 28. When Kyle first got to college he began dating a Japanese girl and when he introduced her to my wife, Naomi loved her. They didn't end up working out. But for the past three years, my son has been seeing Dani, a black girl. My son was in medical school across the country and he ended up meeting Dani because they both were volunteers at a soup kitchen. I remember the first time he sent a picture of her, my wife immediately didn't like her. I'm going to try to phrase this without sounding ignorant myself. But she looks like the urban black girl most think of when African American women. She has the big hoop earrings, the long nails, the long eye lashes. I think she looks stunning, but I've never been in a situation where I was involved in African American culture. Recently my son moved back to our city for residency and Dani moved with him and started law school. They were staying in a Air bnb, while looking for a place and this week they finally found one. So they invited us over for dinner. Dani cooked soul food and this stuff was amazing. I complemented her food and my wife gave me the side eye. Naomi then pulled out her phone and asked Dani why does she dress like that and why was she twerking in public. Kyle asked my mom what her problem was, I then took the phone to scroll through Dani's instagram. And while she did have some videos of her having fun, she also had plenty of pictures of her a academic achievements. Before Dani could answer I told my wife Dani is young and having fun. I asked did she see that Dani graduated Cum laude or all the times she volunteered. My wife looked angry that I would bring that up. Naomi then said that she thinks that Dani isn't good enough for our son. Dani then asked why Naomi loved Kyle's ex so much. She didn't graduate with honors, she has many different boys that she posted on social media. Dani then said it's evident the reason Naomi doesn't like her is because of her race. Naomi doubled down and said so what. I've never heard Kyle even disrespect his mother but he told her to get the fuck out. Naomi left crying. In the car on the ride home I asked her what was her problem. She asked why didn't I defend her. I said because she was being a racist and a hypocrite and she's acting just like her parents. Her parents didn't like me because I was white. She just said it's different and was just silent on the way home. And when we got to the house she locked herself in the room and started crying. I can't feel bad for her because if someone disrespected my wife the way she disrespected Dani I would have absolutely did the same exact thing Kyle did. But Aita because I was also harsh towards her in this situation.

2025-10-30 08:06:18

Jonas Bergström

AITA

AITAH For selling my Taylor Swift tickets after my GF cheated?

A few months back, I (27M) won some money and decided to surprise my girlfriend (25F) with Taylor Swift tickets for her Vancouver show. She's been a massive Swiftie since forever and I knew this would mean the world to her. I spent around $800 for two really good seats. Last week, I discovered she'd been secretly meeting up with her "work friend" for months. I found out because she accidentally left her Instagram DMs open on my laptop (she'd been using it to print something), and I saw weeks of flirty messages and plans to meet up. When I confronted her, she tried to deny it at first but eventually admitted they'd kissed several times and had been having an emotional affair. I was devastated. These tickets were meant to be a special experience for us, and I couldn't stomach the thought of taking her after this betrayal. Rather than let them go to waste, I decided to sell them. Given how insane the Taylor Swift ticket market is right now, I managed to sell them for $2,400 - triple what I paid. When she found out I sold the tickets, she completely lost it. She's been blowing up my phone, calling me petty and cruel, saying I "ruined her dream" and that the tickets were a "gift" so they belonged to her. Her friends are also messaging me saying I'm an awful person for using the tickets to hurt her. I feel like I had every right to sell tickets that I bought with my own money, especially after what she did. But she's making me feel like I took things too far. AITAH?

2025-10-30 08:06:18

Clara Jensen

Relationships

AITA for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife video tapes?

I am writing this because I don’t know what to do. I have a daughter with my late wife and her name is Eleanore. Her birthday is coming up in 2 weeks and she’s turning 18. Background, me and my late wife, Cloé has been dating since college. We got older and ended up getting married, and after our wedding, she shared news to me that she was pregnant and I was excited that we were expecting our first child. Since it was our first child we bought a video camera and made little tapes and snippets of her whole pregnancy. Wholesome things such as us just joking around or having lunch, or talking to our unborn child through the camera. We made a promise to only show Eleanore the tapes until her 18 birthday. Fast forward 2 years after her birth, Cloé passed away due to a drunk driver crashing into her car as she was coming home from her mother’s house. I was devastated of her passing and went into a deep depression and having to raise our two year old daughter by my self. My friends tried to get me to go out again and start back dating, but every time I did I felt like I was betraying her. Years later when Eleanore was 13, I met Wendy. We met at a gathering for my sister’s birthday and we instantly hit it off. She didn’t mind that I had a daughter because she had two kids herself and just went through a divorce. Two years after we got married, now back to the present. Eleanore 18 birthday is coming up and I kept all the tapes for me to show her. Mind you her mother died when she was just two, so Eleanore doesn’t remember her touch or her voice. I was excited to show her the tapes and a week ago I was talking to Wendy about it and I noticed her expression going from happy to looking a bit uncomfortable. Wendy would always get uncomfortable when I talk about my late wife. I don’t say things like “why can’t you be like Cloé” or “Cloé was only supposed to be my first love” but I talk about her in a way to give my daughter a mental picture of how her mother was like. Wendy has always talked to me about Cloé and how it made her sad that “She can never be like her”. Cloé was a model then started working on her fashion career, and don’t get me wrong she was a really beautiful woman, while Wendy had two kids in college and “not in the best shape” due to her words. I love both woman how they are and I’ve never had a preference but I feel like Wendy is gaining some jealousy towards Cloé. I told Wendy that I love her just the way she was and she broke down crying. The next day after that incident she came up to me and apologized for the way she acted last night. I told her it was okay and it good that she felt comfortable to share her feelings, and I gave her a tight hug and a kiss on her forehead. She asked to see where the tapes were at and I showed her the box of video tapes of my late wife in my closet. Things were going fine until yesterday morning. I was looking for the tapes because I wanted to put them in a prettier box for my daughter and when I went to go find them, the box wasn’t in my closet. I looked everywhere to the point I walked downstairs to see my wife laying on the couch watching tv. I asked her about the box and she told me she threw it away with a neutral expression. My heart dropped and I asked her what did she mean, and she told me that I talk about her too much and that I need to move on with my life so she threw them away as a “head start”. I was fuming with anger because not only she threw away what I had left of her, she threw away my daughter big surprise. We quickly got into an argument and she noticed how angry I was so she started apologizing. It got to the point I started crying and locked myself in our bedroom. It’s the morning and I’m writing this in my office going through my computer finding old files or any type of video of my late wife to give it to my daughter because sometimes my daughter still cries that she never got to “meet” her mother and I really thought it would bring her closer to her. I’ve been ignoring my wife for the past day and she’s been texting me nonstop about how sorry she is but I really just can’t look at her right now. It’s getting to the point our mutual friends are texting me to accept her apology and get over it since Cloé died over 10 years ago but I’m trying to ignore them all because they never had someone so close to them died. I am working on finding these files but in the meantime, I’ll update you guys when something happens.

2025-10-30 08:06:24

Luca Moretti

Relationships

AITA For Telling My Girlfriend I Have Every Right To Defend My Home After Someone Started Kicking My Door In

I (27M) and my girlfriend (26F) have been together for two years. I'm a black man raised in the inner city, she's a white girl from the suburbs. We grew up different, and normally that's okay but last week someone tried to break into my house and it started causing problems. I'm taking care of my mother now that she's getting up in age. She just had surgery on her legs and CAN NOT WALK. I need to stress this, she physically can't support herself so I'm doing everything for her. Her bedroom is in the back of the house right next to the back door that leads to the porch. At 2AM last Wednesday my mom calls me scared saying someone's trying to break into the house and she can hear them banging on the back door. My Girlfriend was staying with me in my bedroom when I got the call. I jumped up, grabbed my gun and ran to the back and started yelling for whoever was there to get away because they were still banging on the door when I got there. Things got quiet so I checked the camera on the porch and I saw them standing there. It was three people and one of them said keep going, it doesn't matter. So I used the speaker on my camera to say I have a weapon, it's loaded, and if you kick that door one more time I WILL shoot. My Girlfriend is behind me at that point screaming not to shoot them and it isn't worth it. The three people on the porch don't move so I put my phone down, cock my weapon and say I'm going to count to three. And if you aren't gone by the time I get to three, I'm firing. As soon as I counted one they ran away. And my girlfriend was screaming at me that there's never a reason to threaten to shoot someone. Ever. I told her we are not having this conversation right now and we need to call the police. Yes I should have done oh earlier but I was too worried about my mother to think about it. The police get called, they come out and see shoe prints on my fence and on the back door from where they were kicking and start patrolling the area but don't find them. When the police leave my girlfriend starts yelling at me and saying she can't believe I'd be willing to shoot someone because they kicked my door. I said it isn't about the house, it's the fact that my mother is laying in bed helpless just a few feet from that door and they could have done anything. Stole things, killed her, raped her, a combination. I have no idea and I wasn't taking any chances. She says there is never a reason to hurt or kill someone, ever. Because violence isn't the answer. It just makes you like the person you're hurting. I told her the only reason she thinks violence isn't the answer is because she's never had someone try to physically harm her before. And I'm not going to apologize for what I did because I had every right to defend myself, my home, my mother, and her. She's been angry at me ever since and will barely even speak to me. I'm trying to consider her perspective, I really am, but I'm not going to give up my ability to defend myself because she doesn't believe violence will ever be necessary. AITAH?

2025-10-30 08:06:24

Clara Jensen