WIBTA if I change my wifi pa*sword, making it impossible for a kid to not be able to attend her cla*ses?
In a world quick to judge and stereotype, a simple name became the battleground for a*sumptions and accusations. The storyteller, a proud Indian, found themselves unjustly labeled and misunderstood, their ident*ty questioned because of cultural ignorance and narrow-mindedness. This is a raw plea for empathy and recognition that diversity exists beyond familiar borders and names.
Amidst the struggles of living in a modest neighborhood with limited resources, a quiet resilience shines through. Despite the challenges of a low-budget wifi plan and shared connectivity, the narrative reveals the everyday realities faced by many—real people whose stories are too often overshadowed by prejudice and misunderstanding.
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As renowned researcher Dr. Brené Brown explains, “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” In this scenario, the OP established a clear boundary: the Wi-Fi was for Shanaya's classes, limited to four devices total. The motivation behind the OP's initial action was generosity and community support, but the subsequent actions of the neighbors—sharing the password with their own parents and then another family—represent a significant boundary violation. The neighbors demonstrated a pattern of prioritizing their own convenience and potential savings over respecting the OP's established terms and their daughter's educational needs. This behavior shifts the dynamic from a supportive arrangement to one of exploitation. The OP's daughter, whose education is the primary concern, is suffering direct negative consequences due to the lack of reliability on the network. The OP's action of changing the password and then having it forcefully taken again is an escalation signaling that verbal communication has failed. Given the repeated violations, the OP's contemplation of not giving Shanaya the new password is an understandable reaction to protect their own dependent's well-being. A constructive recommendation would be for the OP to communicate firmly one last time, stating that due to multiple service interruptions, the arrangement is temporarily suspended until the parents can guarantee only Shanaya will use the connection. If trust cannot be re-established, they must prioritize their own household's needs without apology.
REDDIT USERS WERE STUNNED – YOU WON’T BELIEVE SOME OF THESE REACTIONS.:
Users didn’t stay quiet — they showed up in full force, mixing support with sharp criticism. From calling out bad behavior to offering real talk, the comments lit up fast.
The original poster is caught between wanting to support their neighbor's child's education by sharing limited internet access and needing to ensure their own daughter's schooling is not interrupted. The central conflict arises because the neighbor's parents have repeatedly broken the agreed-upon terms by allowing multiple other users onto the limited connection, prioritizing convenience over the OP's stated needs.
Should the OP maintain the agreement by sharing the new password with Shanaya, risking their daughter's connectivity, or should they prioritize their own child by withholding the password entirely? The core question remains: When sharing a limited resource under specific conditions, is it justifiable to revoke access completely when the recipient's family repeatedly violates those conditions?